"I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do. -Helen Keller "
Today is the forth day of my new exercise regime and 3rd blog entry. This morning before I went for my walk with Charmaine, I manage to write in my journal.
I have grown up thinking and believing "all that matters is studying hard, earning well and looking after my immediate family, other issues in society is not my concern." Perhaps I m no different to Malaysians and Malaysian Chinese especially we mind our own business and let the Malays and politicians run our country. One person is of no consequence I suppose. Even my religion is restricted to my family and small circle of friends except the occasional trip to India.But now I am beginning to realise this is not enough.
But to live well and fully after 50 apart from engaging my family and friends, my body I must also be fully engaged in my society and its concern. My mind and my soul needs to be challenged by the concerns bigger than my own little world. In the morning when I wake up, I want to wake up to something that requires me and my engagement. I want to know today I can make a diference to the society I am in. BERSIH 2.0 has shown me that one person can make a difference. When many many one person believe this it become a very powerful force that the authorities cannot ignore. Even a 60 something frail retired teacherAunty Bersih can show us what it is to voice ,show up and make a difference. My brother say she puts him to shame.
Today Malaysia is facing some serious political crisis, rampant corruption and loss of confidence in the integrity of our government and competitiveness of business environment. We need a change in our government or change of our government. We need to commit towards this and be willing to pay the price if neccessary. We need to stop harmful and potentially devastating and harmful projects like LYNAS and STOP it we must. We need to say to the authorites we don't want people to die in police and MACC custody because perhaps if we are unlucky it may be us or our loved ones who may be the next victim. For this to happen I need to voice up and show up when required. I will show up at the anti Lynas demo for a start. I will share with my friends and patients about my concerns and I will help everyone I know who is eigible to vote to register.
Of couse there are risk but the alternative of doing nothing is more risky. 30 years of corruptions and abuse in Myanmar and Phillipines has brought these neighbours from being very rich countries to being the basket case of ASia. If nothing changes, the day will come when Malaysians will become illegal workers in Indonesia, Vietnem and other countries. 30 years of cronism and corruption hollowed out the economy Phillipines the second most advanced country in Asia to be 2nd poorest. No investment in the economy resulted from an opaque government , no job opportunities so fully 1/4 of the workforce is working overseas. Tragic!
So I have dicided apart from engaging my body, my mind , I will also engage my soul to the wider concerns of our society, so that I will live well for a long , long time and I hope so will you. As the deaf mute and blind Helen Keller says
"I am only one, but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; and because I cannot do everything, I will not refuse to do something that I can do. "
Monday, February 20, 2012
Living Like 50 until 80 II Leaving a Legacy
Today is the third day of the commitment to write on my journal and excercise 6 days a week for 90 days. Woke up early and wrote this in my note book and walked around the neighborhood in a slight drizzle. I have been thinking what kind of legacy I want to leave for my wife and children. Materially I believe after providing for retirement I ll have some left over. That s not the issue, what am I leaving spiritualy and emotionally.
I am forever grateful for the fine legacy of hard work, love of learning and education my father left me. I miss him every single day and I have very good memories of my father.
First I want to be fully engaed in their life choices and career of my children for the next few years.The years after leaving Uni will determine how the rest of theworking life.A good choice of jobs and career will help so much. Just like my dad gave me his land as collateral so I could build the hospital. He gave me a leg up. Jimmy is graduating in May I want to be around as a support and sounding board, so that he can move with assurance and wisdom in his life and career. John is graduating next year as a performing opera singer. I don't envy the road ahead in this cutthroat world of music and performance. He will also need plenty of support morally and otherwise.Joe is planning to do medicine after A levels.I am hopeful and confident he will givehis best shot. I want to be his best cheerleader. Joy doesn't know what to do except inclination to cuiiniary arts. I will commit to pray for the each day and write or call regularly which my wife has been doing but not me. ENGAGE ENGAGE.
Secondly I want to provide an example of a good strong marraige as I possibly can. The empty nest beckons as all the children wil be off to college in afew years. It is going to be pretty scary and lonely. Like most couple the emphasis of the relationship has been children and their future for a long time. But that needs to change. Need to look for fun things to do together and causes too champion together until we slip into eternity hahaa.ENGAGE ENGAGE.
Thirdly like most Malaysians especially Chinese Malaysians I need to break out of the mould of just looking aftr my family and business. I need to examplify commitment and courage to social and civil society issues. That is another story for another day.
Hopefully when my children look at me and my wife we will examplify how they want to live.
I am forever grateful for the fine legacy of hard work, love of learning and education my father left me. I miss him every single day and I have very good memories of my father.
First I want to be fully engaed in their life choices and career of my children for the next few years.The years after leaving Uni will determine how the rest of theworking life.A good choice of jobs and career will help so much. Just like my dad gave me his land as collateral so I could build the hospital. He gave me a leg up. Jimmy is graduating in May I want to be around as a support and sounding board, so that he can move with assurance and wisdom in his life and career. John is graduating next year as a performing opera singer. I don't envy the road ahead in this cutthroat world of music and performance. He will also need plenty of support morally and otherwise.Joe is planning to do medicine after A levels.I am hopeful and confident he will givehis best shot. I want to be his best cheerleader. Joy doesn't know what to do except inclination to cuiiniary arts. I will commit to pray for the each day and write or call regularly which my wife has been doing but not me. ENGAGE ENGAGE.
Secondly I want to provide an example of a good strong marraige as I possibly can. The empty nest beckons as all the children wil be off to college in afew years. It is going to be pretty scary and lonely. Like most couple the emphasis of the relationship has been children and their future for a long time. But that needs to change. Need to look for fun things to do together and causes too champion together until we slip into eternity hahaa.ENGAGE ENGAGE.
Thirdly like most Malaysians especially Chinese Malaysians I need to break out of the mould of just looking aftr my family and business. I need to examplify commitment and courage to social and civil society issues. That is another story for another day.
Hopefully when my children look at me and my wife we will examplify how they want to live.
Friday, February 17, 2012
After the halftime whistle.....
This Chinese New Year, I attended a High School Reunion. Initialy I was slightly apprehensive how it will turn out, not having met so many friends and aquaintances for the past 35 years or more. I suppose ther is no need to worry as everyone will be older perhaps some would have aged better than others.The impulse to turn back as I drove over the Penang bridge was quite persistent.
Which brings me to the subject of healthy aging because at 53 many things don't work as well as before: your teeth has problems, your joints creak, your memory is not so good and everything is not a vigorous as before.I came across an audiobook called Younger Next Year by Chris Crowley and Henry S. Lodge MD. Crowley was 70 when he wrote this book.
Essentially what he said is that you can live like 50 until well beyond as stated in the title Younger Next Year: A Guide to living like 50 Until You’re 80 and Beyond. His contention is you can fight the tide of decay and destruction in your body as you age by exercising. Execise is like “Exercise—the physical work of hunting and foraging—has always been the single most powerful signal we can send that life is good; that it’s spring and time to grow.” By exercising 6 days a week 4 days aerobics 65-85% max heart rate and 2 days of strengthh training you can reverse the tide of aging. The scientific argument which is quite elaborate is pretty convincng. http://cbass.com/YoungerNext.htm has a summary of the book.
Anyway I am going to commit 90 days to this regiment as I believe this is useful( just as I am also commiting to write a journal for 90 days) . Four years ago I had arthritis that caused my body to be wracked in pain. I had my Lt Hip replaced on March 16 2009.When my father died on 29th Oct 2009, mentally I was preparing to SAU TONG. My time here may not also be long because I have the same arthritis that he had. However to my surprise my health has improved by God's grace and by moderate exercis.e For the past 6 months I have been walking to work from home on alternate days and swimming couple of days a week. I am feeling better today than anytime in the last 4 years. So if half an hour of light aerobic exercise can do so much good I am waiting to see what moderate aerobic exercise 6 days a week will do. I am planning to go to the gym on alternate mornings when I don't walk to work. Keep you posted.
I figure at 53 perhaps still have a good second half after the halftime whistle!!!
Which brings me to the subject of healthy aging because at 53 many things don't work as well as before: your teeth has problems, your joints creak, your memory is not so good and everything is not a vigorous as before.I came across an audiobook called Younger Next Year by Chris Crowley and Henry S. Lodge MD. Crowley was 70 when he wrote this book.
Essentially what he said is that you can live like 50 until well beyond as stated in the title Younger Next Year: A Guide to living like 50 Until You’re 80 and Beyond. His contention is you can fight the tide of decay and destruction in your body as you age by exercising. Execise is like “Exercise—the physical work of hunting and foraging—has always been the single most powerful signal we can send that life is good; that it’s spring and time to grow.” By exercising 6 days a week 4 days aerobics 65-85% max heart rate and 2 days of strengthh training you can reverse the tide of aging. The scientific argument which is quite elaborate is pretty convincng. http://cbass.com/YoungerNext.htm has a summary of the book.
Anyway I am going to commit 90 days to this regiment as I believe this is useful( just as I am also commiting to write a journal for 90 days) . Four years ago I had arthritis that caused my body to be wracked in pain. I had my Lt Hip replaced on March 16 2009.When my father died on 29th Oct 2009, mentally I was preparing to SAU TONG. My time here may not also be long because I have the same arthritis that he had. However to my surprise my health has improved by God's grace and by moderate exercis.e For the past 6 months I have been walking to work from home on alternate days and swimming couple of days a week. I am feeling better today than anytime in the last 4 years. So if half an hour of light aerobic exercise can do so much good I am waiting to see what moderate aerobic exercise 6 days a week will do. I am planning to go to the gym on alternate mornings when I don't walk to work. Keep you posted.
I figure at 53 perhaps still have a good second half after the halftime whistle!!!
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
Walk for a Better Malaysia
All my life I have been very obedient and a law abiding citizen. I also hate confrontation. Often I would ask my wife to go to school to meet my childrens teachers at school. I m a 52 y.o GP from the north. I weighed up the 3 likely outcomes of joining Bersih 2.0. A) Normal demonstrations with tear gas and water cannon. B) arrest and detention C) death. Option B) I have had several operations in the past and experience some degree of pain so I figured I could survive a police beating on top of police detention for few days. As for option C) I was confident my capable wife could take care of my children with our savings and insurance taking care of their college education.As Malaysian Chinese sacrifice is not alien to us.We scrimp and save for our children's education sacrificing our pensions and retirement funds. Terminally ill paarents forgo life prolonging chemotherapy to stop children piling up debt. Bersih is the same category of sacrifice.
I have reached the point where I have had enough. Our country is facing unprecedented social and economic problems but our government seems to be obsesed by imagined threats. Arresting people for nothing other than wearing yellow Tshirts. Arresting our revered collegue Dr Jeyakumar under ISAlike emergency ordinance on concocted charges of being a communist. 2 years ago in July Teoh Beng Hock died when questioned as a witness. Teens being shot in cold blood by police. I had enough of abuse of power.
Several days before the event I had come to KL for a business conference.Fortunately for me, my wife didn't try to dissuade me from marching. A speaker had all his PowerPoint slides coloured yellow. When I shared my intention to walk with a supplier L, at the conference , he tried but failing to persuade me to not walk.He promised to get his lawyer to bail me out if arrested.
On 8th July Friday night, my family and I went to KLCC, buy salt and a towel, advise from the internet for a novice demonstrator. At dinner. I told them should I be arrested they should go back to my hometown and wait for me. I could not bring myself to discuss option (C) accidental death , with my family because I did not know how to broach the subject. Walking back to the hotel I held my wife’s hand very tightly.
I worried as I waited for my high school classmate, a publishing Manager Poh and his wife to check in to my hotel. We planned to walk together. He nearly couldn’t make it because of the police roadblocks he took 4 hours to get home in Petaling Jaya from work. He finally did arrive by LRT after 11pm.
After breakfast 'we prayed together.I said goodbye to my family. They were staying in the hotel to wait for me.The 3 of us,Poh, his wife and I walked to The Pavilion, Jalan Bukit Bintang and finally Jalan Pudu. We saw people in small groups would be protesters, media people with their cameras and name tags, lawyers dressed in black suits. They all came from places like Penang, Kedah and Johore.I was very touched by a group of maciks in their tudung 5 or 6 of them in their 50s and 60s wondering how they will hold up under tear gas and chemical spray. There was already a police presence along the road so we avoided the police and zigzagged our way to Jalan Tun Perak.I also saw Malay families with young children in tow.
Suddenly I saw them! the huge crowd stretching all the way as far as my eye can see along Jalan Tun Perak. Despite all the intimidation all these Malaysians Malays, Chinese and Indians have come and in such numbers. I took a photo of this large crowd and shared on my facebook “Today I am so proud to be Malaysian.” I shook hands with a Petronas executive from Bintulu with his wife and 2 teenage sons all dressed up with Yassir Arafat type scarf ready to march. We joined the throng and shout Bersih! Bersih! in a carnival atmosphere. We took pictures with Baru Bian and his native friends with a Sarawak flag. I was so pleased to bump into Dr K, a good friend, from my hometown. Later in the day we are going share salt after being teargassed.
We followed the crowd to the front of Menara Maybank by this time about 1pm there was already 20000 people. I was on the road divider underneath the LRT overhead rails. One of the participants told me that this time there was much more Chinese participation compared to Bersih 1.0. There was a continuous chatter of Cantonese amidst the shouts of Hidup Rakyat and Hidup Bersih. A huge crowd appeared marching from Puduraya. We were worried that it was UMNO youth and an inevitable confrontation. As the advancing crowd got nearer we saw their yellow shirts, people started shouting “Ji Kei Yau,ji kei yau” our own people in Cantonese.It was a big morale booster . By this time perhaps there was over 30,000 people assembled infront of Menara Maybank. My friends wife wisely suggested we move up the grass slope of Menara Maybank to have a better look.
Then it struck ,when we were halfway up the stairs, the water cannon hit the crowd on the road followed by tear gas. All around me people started choking and coughing, when I felt like chilli had hit my eyes and going into my chest. I felt giddy and couldn’t breath for a spell. We were sharing salt with so many people and washing in the front ofthe fountain. Even in the rush everybody was helping one another. The young men from PAS were exemplary helping people encouraging people. I thought to myself this is really 1Malaysia. We saw police coming so we ran up to the canteen of Menara Maybank. My friend Poh, told us to sit down. This was fortunate as the police was just randomly making some arrests especially those who ran.
Then I it started to rain heavily, praise God it washed away the pungent smell of the tear gas We stayed in the canteen for lunch with many others sheltering from the rain.There were several young Chinese girls and an older Chinese lawyer who walked with a limp. After recovering from the teargas we decided to leave the compound of Menara Maybank. Going down the stairs we encountered several police who made no effort to arrest us. Perhaps they have fulfilled their their quota of arrests for the day.
On the way we saw a man collapsed on the road side and there were many helpers around waiting for ambulance.I don't know if that was Baharudin Ahmad. Our mutual friend Low rang to see if we are alright. He said he had reserved RM2000 to post bail if required. We walked around and joined a large crowd heading towards the stadium on Petaling Street. The crowd stopped right in from of Chinese Town Hall by trucks,barbed wire and few dozens of police blocking the road to the stadium. We shouted Bersih! When we sang Negara Ku tears welled up in my eyes. At about 400pm the leaders said according to Bersih’s understanding with the Agung we will disperse.
It was a long walk back to KLCC along Jalan Maharajalela as most taxis were not running and the monorail stations were closed. Halfway we stopped for drinks. We saw more people coming back from the march. One youngish Chinese man pushed a pram. Both he and the baby wore yellow. That kind of risk and commitment!!!We sat in the coffee shop and became instant friends with several malay men. All of them looked like police but their tear gassed eyes help to distinguish them from the men in blue. We finally hailed a cab in front of Melia Hotel after perhaps walking for 15kms that day.
I am thankful none of the scary things I imagined happened except for the tear gas. I read a pro Government official write yesterday asking what did we get from Bersih 2.0. How did we benefit from Bersih 2.0? Wrong question!It is not about getting. It is about GIVING. Malaysia called we answered, we gave our time, our money , our prayers, our comfort and possibly our lives as Baharudin Ahmad found out. On the streets of KL on 709, Malaysians gave, shared and partook gladly in a fellowship of suffering for our children's future.
Malaysians stood up that day against the bullying and threats in great numbers to say "Intimidation doesn’t work."Malaysian conquered fear especially the Chinese.Resurrecting May13 to scare Chinese of this generation doesn't work. I am so proud of Malaysians. The Arab Spring should have given notice to our government that intimidation doesn’t work especially with the social media today but I wonder how these multimillion dollar consultants are advising our leaders. One week after the event our government hasn’t really figured out how to deal with the fallout of videos of police brutality and tear gas being fired into a hospital. It is going to get harder to deal with this kind of situations by command and control of the media. The fight is not over but we are witnessing the beginning of a better Malaysia. And we are ready.
I have reached the point where I have had enough. Our country is facing unprecedented social and economic problems but our government seems to be obsesed by imagined threats. Arresting people for nothing other than wearing yellow Tshirts. Arresting our revered collegue Dr Jeyakumar under ISAlike emergency ordinance on concocted charges of being a communist. 2 years ago in July Teoh Beng Hock died when questioned as a witness. Teens being shot in cold blood by police. I had enough of abuse of power.
Several days before the event I had come to KL for a business conference.Fortunately for me, my wife didn't try to dissuade me from marching. A speaker had all his PowerPoint slides coloured yellow. When I shared my intention to walk with a supplier L, at the conference , he tried but failing to persuade me to not walk.He promised to get his lawyer to bail me out if arrested.
On 8th July Friday night, my family and I went to KLCC, buy salt and a towel, advise from the internet for a novice demonstrator. At dinner. I told them should I be arrested they should go back to my hometown and wait for me. I could not bring myself to discuss option (C) accidental death , with my family because I did not know how to broach the subject. Walking back to the hotel I held my wife’s hand very tightly.
I worried as I waited for my high school classmate, a publishing Manager Poh and his wife to check in to my hotel. We planned to walk together. He nearly couldn’t make it because of the police roadblocks he took 4 hours to get home in Petaling Jaya from work. He finally did arrive by LRT after 11pm.
After breakfast 'we prayed together.I said goodbye to my family. They were staying in the hotel to wait for me.The 3 of us,Poh, his wife and I walked to The Pavilion, Jalan Bukit Bintang and finally Jalan Pudu. We saw people in small groups would be protesters, media people with their cameras and name tags, lawyers dressed in black suits. They all came from places like Penang, Kedah and Johore.I was very touched by a group of maciks in their tudung 5 or 6 of them in their 50s and 60s wondering how they will hold up under tear gas and chemical spray. There was already a police presence along the road so we avoided the police and zigzagged our way to Jalan Tun Perak.I also saw Malay families with young children in tow.
Suddenly I saw them! the huge crowd stretching all the way as far as my eye can see along Jalan Tun Perak. Despite all the intimidation all these Malaysians Malays, Chinese and Indians have come and in such numbers. I took a photo of this large crowd and shared on my facebook “Today I am so proud to be Malaysian.” I shook hands with a Petronas executive from Bintulu with his wife and 2 teenage sons all dressed up with Yassir Arafat type scarf ready to march. We joined the throng and shout Bersih! Bersih! in a carnival atmosphere. We took pictures with Baru Bian and his native friends with a Sarawak flag. I was so pleased to bump into Dr K, a good friend, from my hometown. Later in the day we are going share salt after being teargassed.
We followed the crowd to the front of Menara Maybank by this time about 1pm there was already 20000 people. I was on the road divider underneath the LRT overhead rails. One of the participants told me that this time there was much more Chinese participation compared to Bersih 1.0. There was a continuous chatter of Cantonese amidst the shouts of Hidup Rakyat and Hidup Bersih. A huge crowd appeared marching from Puduraya. We were worried that it was UMNO youth and an inevitable confrontation. As the advancing crowd got nearer we saw their yellow shirts, people started shouting “Ji Kei Yau,ji kei yau” our own people in Cantonese.It was a big morale booster . By this time perhaps there was over 30,000 people assembled infront of Menara Maybank. My friends wife wisely suggested we move up the grass slope of Menara Maybank to have a better look.
Then it struck ,when we were halfway up the stairs, the water cannon hit the crowd on the road followed by tear gas. All around me people started choking and coughing, when I felt like chilli had hit my eyes and going into my chest. I felt giddy and couldn’t breath for a spell. We were sharing salt with so many people and washing in the front ofthe fountain. Even in the rush everybody was helping one another. The young men from PAS were exemplary helping people encouraging people. I thought to myself this is really 1Malaysia. We saw police coming so we ran up to the canteen of Menara Maybank. My friend Poh, told us to sit down. This was fortunate as the police was just randomly making some arrests especially those who ran.
Then I it started to rain heavily, praise God it washed away the pungent smell of the tear gas We stayed in the canteen for lunch with many others sheltering from the rain.There were several young Chinese girls and an older Chinese lawyer who walked with a limp. After recovering from the teargas we decided to leave the compound of Menara Maybank. Going down the stairs we encountered several police who made no effort to arrest us. Perhaps they have fulfilled their their quota of arrests for the day.
On the way we saw a man collapsed on the road side and there were many helpers around waiting for ambulance.I don't know if that was Baharudin Ahmad. Our mutual friend Low rang to see if we are alright. He said he had reserved RM2000 to post bail if required. We walked around and joined a large crowd heading towards the stadium on Petaling Street. The crowd stopped right in from of Chinese Town Hall by trucks,barbed wire and few dozens of police blocking the road to the stadium. We shouted Bersih! When we sang Negara Ku tears welled up in my eyes. At about 400pm the leaders said according to Bersih’s understanding with the Agung we will disperse.
It was a long walk back to KLCC along Jalan Maharajalela as most taxis were not running and the monorail stations were closed. Halfway we stopped for drinks. We saw more people coming back from the march. One youngish Chinese man pushed a pram. Both he and the baby wore yellow. That kind of risk and commitment!!!We sat in the coffee shop and became instant friends with several malay men. All of them looked like police but their tear gassed eyes help to distinguish them from the men in blue. We finally hailed a cab in front of Melia Hotel after perhaps walking for 15kms that day.
I am thankful none of the scary things I imagined happened except for the tear gas. I read a pro Government official write yesterday asking what did we get from Bersih 2.0. How did we benefit from Bersih 2.0? Wrong question!It is not about getting. It is about GIVING. Malaysia called we answered, we gave our time, our money , our prayers, our comfort and possibly our lives as Baharudin Ahmad found out. On the streets of KL on 709, Malaysians gave, shared and partook gladly in a fellowship of suffering for our children's future.
Malaysians stood up that day against the bullying and threats in great numbers to say "Intimidation doesn’t work."Malaysian conquered fear especially the Chinese.Resurrecting May13 to scare Chinese of this generation doesn't work. I am so proud of Malaysians. The Arab Spring should have given notice to our government that intimidation doesn’t work especially with the social media today but I wonder how these multimillion dollar consultants are advising our leaders. One week after the event our government hasn’t really figured out how to deal with the fallout of videos of police brutality and tear gas being fired into a hospital. It is going to get harder to deal with this kind of situations by command and control of the media. The fight is not over but we are witnessing the beginning of a better Malaysia. And we are ready.
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
Tales about My Father
My father fell into a coma hepatic encephalopathy since yesterday. Apart from the liver failure he also has severe arthritis and joint contractures due to ankylosing spondylitis. I felt it is better at this hour to treat him at home in familiar surroundings with drips and riles tube feeding with flagyl.Sister Yew kindly helped me to do all the necessary last night.
After a lifetime of calling this man papa, I finally got to know him in his final months and come to appreciate him for the man he is. Even in the deepest trouble of his illness going in and out of hospital I see a man slow to complain, always hopeful and seemed almost indifferent to his own pain. He concentrated on his concern his family and his following of the KLSE. He also seemed anxious to settle his will, financial matters and afterlife concerns. My mother said "he doesn't know how to feel sad." I don't know if his demeanour is peculiar to his generation or it is just him.
In Dec 2003 I took him together with my family to his ancestral village. He was very happy looking at the photos we took on that trip. At the age of 12 he walked with his mother 14 hours from Xianyou county to Xiamen to board a steamer to come to Malaysia circa 1945. Typical of my father's life he had very few options at every stage of his life. At an early age 6 or 7 he became the man in the house being the eldest son when his mother was widowed. After arriving here in Bukit Mertajam he was in primary school for 2 years 8 months before his uncle died and he had to go to the village at 15 years of age to be the kepala(estate conductor) of his uncle's rubber plantation.Lived by himself for the next 10 years cooking his own meals and living in the kampung in Mengkuang.
Typical of the man that I come to know he always made something good of whatever meagre options given to him. From the small salary he was able to send a considerable amount of money to his mother and brothers in China. He built a concrete house for them which still stands today. I believe he looked after his brothers very well.One of his brothers was the Secretary of the local Communist Party. When we visited in 2003 one of his cousins to whom he sent a Rado watch came to fetch us in a Mercedes to show his appreciation showed us hospitality and offered money to my father. To this day I am so proud of him.
Life was hard on a small salary and 3 children going to school in the town from the the village Sungai Lembu. Bas sekolah money came to quite a bit on top of everything else. Here again the man is in his element. He would trade in scrap rubber, soya sauce, plant papayas for sale and save every cent he could for the family. I remember many a night being told to go to sleep at 9pm. Lights out to save kerosene for the hurricane lamp. Despite being poor, my mother always dressed us very neatly and was givem ample pocket money so much so the teachers used to think I was a rich estate owner's son.
Scrounging and saving was not easy.I think he felt pressured a bit. But my father was always good at motivating himself. When my youngest brother was born 1970 he named him Khye Lock(pronounced Look) , meaning opening of happiness. You see despite everything he kept his hopes up. Khye Lock did bring us much happiness in our family.I am 10 years older than my youngest brother and having a small child in the family did bring much laughter.Later my fathers financial position improved somewhat. He was a many years the chairman of the Chinese school board of directors and the PIBG chairman. I remember one time he recieved a letter from the government appointing him to be the village headman -the chairman of the JKKK. But being the man that he was he turned it down because he felt he could n't do a good job.I showed him the letter and read it to him,he just chucked it out.That was it nobody else in the family knew about it.I found out later he was the compromise candidate acceptable to Gerakan and MCA who were fighting for the post.
I don't know how he did it but he managed on his RM300 salary to save RM15000 to send me to study in Australia in 1978. I did have to work to help put myself thru but my father gave me a leg up despite the disadvantages he faced. Eventually 4 of his children graduated from a University in Australia. This is a source of great pride to him. He visited Australia to see me graduate from University.
In 1991 he took a trip to China with my second brother. Unfortunately and fortunately he was able to see his mother to whom he has frequently written once more after a space of 46 years but she has become partially senile. She did intermittently recognise him. One month after coming back from China we received news from his bothers that his mother had died. I did not see any sign of grieve but thinking back it must have grieved him.
When my father was 69 the Lord Jesus remembered him and brought this exstudent leader Zhang Boli from China to share about his experiences as a refugee escaping from the Communist government after leading the Tiananmen uprising of June fourth 1989.It took another Chinaman to get to him. He accepted Jesus Christ. He insisted on completion of his term as the trustee of the local Tokong after he said proper goodbye to his past duties he was baptised in Pulau Pangkor by Pastor James Khoo.
I didn't enquire much about his faith but towards the end of his life I see great faith. He always hoped and expected to get well. He need help to move around the house since 2009 Chinese New Year when he fractured his spine. Even when his illness got worse he would have dreams where his "Father" rescued him from falling into a well and also had other dreams of hope and healing.He told my mother that there is a fragrance in his room in the evenings when Jesus visited him. I begin to spend more time but I must say not enough. There are many questions I want to ask him but I don't have the time now. I did remind him a few times how well he looked after me and my brothers and we are so grateful. 2 weeks before he fell into coma my sister came back from Australia to see him. He complained that she was spending thousands of ringgit just to see him, I reminded him that we loved him and he looked after us so well.
Even in his sickness his mind was very clear. He traded in shares and made a tidy profit up to 1 month before he fell into coma. 2 days before he dropped into the coma he had a few stock picks for me. He could always find something to keep himself happy.
My father didn't have many options in his life but he always saw each situation he was in as good and made the most of it. His childhood was spent as an adult with too many responsibilities. Most of his life he was happy to bring up his family unassuming quietly but what a blessing to me and my siblings! In his old age despite sickness he kept his spirits up by not complaining about his infirmities but by the things he enjoyed.
In many ways I am sad to be missing him and saying goodbye in another sense I am proud and happy that my father lived his life well.We need to celebrate his life. He run his race and completed what he was put here to do "a crown of glory" awaits him eternity.
P/s My father finally passed away in ICU in Metro Specialist Hospital with family by his side and singing a hokkien hymm to him on 29th Oct 2009 11pm.
Sunday, July 26, 2009
How Come Doctors are Infallible?
Are doctors infallible? This is a joke right? Of course we know better after reports many incidences of medical mistakes, unfortunate incidences and outright malpractices in the press and huge malpractice awards. Should doctors be subject then to oversight like other professionals? Apparently not most doctors don't take kindly to regulation and patient safety standards and policing fearing it will infringe on autonomy, patient confidentiality and other reasons. While Malaysia was fomenting in anger over the death of Teoh Beng Hock here I was cooped up at the KL Convention Centre attending the APHM Healthcare Conference 2009- Applying Best Practises in Healthcare Delivery. Given the choice I would have like to attend Teoh Beng Hock's funeral to show my abhorrence at his treatment and death.
The conference about how to apply best practises in the delivery of health care and learning how other countries are doing it. The number one consensus statement of this conference is the fact that Doctors especially specialist are not interested and downright against this proposal. I am surprised or should I be surprised that doctors still live in the stone age compared to other professions.
The second message is that to get compliance there must be management commitment, communication and the signal to doctors that implementing best practise should be non punitive but information sharing. Doctors should be asked what they want to know more about their own practise in terms of outcomes and complications.This process is slow and laborious -it took 5 years to have a decent level of reporting form the KPJ group. In Taiwan incidence reporting is done online and a high profile person is in charge, even then reports from doctors as opposed to other staff only constitute 2%.
Another important aspect of improving standards is to communicate to staff how their functions integrate to the functioning of the hospital.
At lunch I was fortunate to meet the Quality Coordinators of Loh Guan Lye Specialist Centre and
learn from them concerning implementation of quality assurance. Their duties include reports and analysis of incidents reports, root cause audits on ISO, ISQ etc. They also shared that each department has more than 10 KPIs for each year with bonus tied in. So employees bonus are subject to Hospital KPI, departmental KPI and own performance.
The second day of this conference 22nd July was mainly devoted to teaching undergraduates what about patient safety. WHO has started a World Health Alliance for Patient Safety and one of the aims is to insert this very important subject into the undergraduate curriculum of medical schools. It is very difficulty to teach new tricks to old docs so the only hope is the new future docs?
Ismail Merican the DG for Health ( yes the one who stood by the government report on Kugan's post mortem and Anwar's sodomy report) spoke that in 2010 online reporting will be required of public hospitals on safety issues. This should improve safety issues as it will then be compulsory. But the implementation of this aim may or may not be efficient as it is always a question of delivery of the public service will come to question.
The third day the conference was divided into 4 tracks I attended the one concerning Hospital Financial Management for non Financial Manager: 1.Lower Staff Cost through Labour Management Models 2.Reducing Non Labour Cost through Cost Management and Supply Chain Management 3.Recognizing and Understanding the Revenue Cycle. Labour cost needs to be studied and a unit labour cost and total volume correlated. The supply chain is well managed already but there are perhaps still some opportunities here for management. Lastly in the revenue cycle the overarching theme is this: The more effort you put into precertification the less problem you have everywhere else. 70% of our business is from insurance now, it follows that preadmission vetting and communication is of extreme importance to patient satisfaction and future collection. More effort needs to be expanded here.
The application of best practises is already a fact in some countries and in many hospitals eg in Korea they have yearly survey of hospitals and in Taiwan the infrastructure of a universal accreditation is in place. It follows that our hospital has to be ahead of this curve.
The conference about how to apply best practises in the delivery of health care and learning how other countries are doing it. The number one consensus statement of this conference is the fact that Doctors especially specialist are not interested and downright against this proposal. I am surprised or should I be surprised that doctors still live in the stone age compared to other professions.
The second message is that to get compliance there must be management commitment, communication and the signal to doctors that implementing best practise should be non punitive but information sharing. Doctors should be asked what they want to know more about their own practise in terms of outcomes and complications.This process is slow and laborious -it took 5 years to have a decent level of reporting form the KPJ group. In Taiwan incidence reporting is done online and a high profile person is in charge, even then reports from doctors as opposed to other staff only constitute 2%.
Another important aspect of improving standards is to communicate to staff how their functions integrate to the functioning of the hospital.
At lunch I was fortunate to meet the Quality Coordinators of Loh Guan Lye Specialist Centre and
learn from them concerning implementation of quality assurance. Their duties include reports and analysis of incidents reports, root cause audits on ISO, ISQ etc. They also shared that each department has more than 10 KPIs for each year with bonus tied in. So employees bonus are subject to Hospital KPI, departmental KPI and own performance.
The second day of this conference 22nd July was mainly devoted to teaching undergraduates what about patient safety. WHO has started a World Health Alliance for Patient Safety and one of the aims is to insert this very important subject into the undergraduate curriculum of medical schools. It is very difficulty to teach new tricks to old docs so the only hope is the new future docs?
Ismail Merican the DG for Health ( yes the one who stood by the government report on Kugan's post mortem and Anwar's sodomy report) spoke that in 2010 online reporting will be required of public hospitals on safety issues. This should improve safety issues as it will then be compulsory. But the implementation of this aim may or may not be efficient as it is always a question of delivery of the public service will come to question.
The third day the conference was divided into 4 tracks I attended the one concerning Hospital Financial Management for non Financial Manager: 1.Lower Staff Cost through Labour Management Models 2.Reducing Non Labour Cost through Cost Management and Supply Chain Management 3.Recognizing and Understanding the Revenue Cycle. Labour cost needs to be studied and a unit labour cost and total volume correlated. The supply chain is well managed already but there are perhaps still some opportunities here for management. Lastly in the revenue cycle the overarching theme is this: The more effort you put into precertification the less problem you have everywhere else. 70% of our business is from insurance now, it follows that preadmission vetting and communication is of extreme importance to patient satisfaction and future collection. More effort needs to be expanded here.
The application of best practises is already a fact in some countries and in many hospitals eg in Korea they have yearly survey of hospitals and in Taiwan the infrastructure of a universal accreditation is in place. It follows that our hospital has to be ahead of this curve.
Saturday, June 6, 2009
The "UMNO-isation" of PAS
This morning I couldn't sleep, I mourned the loss of a historic opportunity for Malaysia to become more inclusive and forward looking. It could have been a watershed muktamar ushering in a new Pakatan government in the 13th GE but PAS leadership and members missed this opportunity. Instead the party elected more ulama and turned conservative, defending and offering a unity government with UMNO for the sake of race and religion. This rallying cry is almost indistinguishable from UMNO's ketuanan Melayu. It suddenly came to me, somehow and thru' some mysterious method the "UMNO-isation of PAS" is taking place. Despite the massive support of non Malays to put PAS reps in racially mixed seats, PAS leaders are ignoring this reality and trying to outUMNO UMNO in racial bigotry. Calling for Unity government, reserving no1 and 2 postions for Ulama without contests,the flip flop position on the NEP, calling for alcohol ban in Selangor etc etc , all these reek of UMNO. PAS leaders do not understand the urban and suburban electorate, Malay and non Malay, labouring under heavy tolls, taxes and high cost of living are sick to death of UMNO and can see thru' the Ketuanan rethoric as cynical bigoted attempt to get votes without really heeding the electorates feedback to reform.
Under these circumstance I ask myself why wont PAS project a more inclusive and confident face to capture Federal Government in the 13th GE. Are they trying to lose the newly gained support of the non Malays? The only possible explanation perhaps is that PAS even though they are the biggest party in the PR coalition in terms of membership and commitment, they have the least number of MPs. While PKR and DAP are deriving the most benefit from the awakening of the urban and suburban electorate to the abuse and corruption of the present government, PAS is allocated mostly rural seats where the rallying cry of Ketuanan Melayu still carry some weight. PAS cannot be seen to deviate too far from this if it were to be competitive in Malay predominant rural seats. I was made to understand that over 90 seats in Peninsular Malaysia has 30% or more non Malay voters. Based on current trend BN looks like they will lose in every on of them. It will be interesting to see how many of this type of seats is allocated for PAS to contest.
It may well be that with this direction PAS has taken we will not see a PR federal government by 2013 but more likely Malaysia has to suffer another 5 years until 2018. The UMNOisation of PAS will in one stroke of the pen undone all the good work of the last 12 months when Malays and non Malays stood side by side to defeat BN. Non UMNO BN parties have been left for dead because they are not able to mitigate the abuse and arrogance of UMNO. With the UMNOisation of PAS these parties are now given a lifeline. I would think they will be celebrating the direction PAS has taken. It may well be just as well for this to happen as going on the uneven and suspect quality of PKR and DAP reps eg Jelapang and Penanti, PR may not be ready to govern despite the experience of Anwar. Best left unsaid.
I would have thought the one thing PR should do is the behind the scenes work in the rural areas to explain its position, discuss current issues and massive voter registration exercise to recruit young voters. At the same time showing good governance in the present PR states. This kind of hack work is tough but PAS is normally known for doing it. I wonder if Hadi has lost his appetite for this kind of tough grind, having once tasted power as single term MB in Trengganu, and is in a hurry to enjoy the perks of government even if in a unity government with UMNO.
Hidup Melayu, Hidup UMNO don't know about PAS hidup or ...........................
Under these circumstance I ask myself why wont PAS project a more inclusive and confident face to capture Federal Government in the 13th GE. Are they trying to lose the newly gained support of the non Malays? The only possible explanation perhaps is that PAS even though they are the biggest party in the PR coalition in terms of membership and commitment, they have the least number of MPs. While PKR and DAP are deriving the most benefit from the awakening of the urban and suburban electorate to the abuse and corruption of the present government, PAS is allocated mostly rural seats where the rallying cry of Ketuanan Melayu still carry some weight. PAS cannot be seen to deviate too far from this if it were to be competitive in Malay predominant rural seats. I was made to understand that over 90 seats in Peninsular Malaysia has 30% or more non Malay voters. Based on current trend BN looks like they will lose in every on of them. It will be interesting to see how many of this type of seats is allocated for PAS to contest.
It may well be that with this direction PAS has taken we will not see a PR federal government by 2013 but more likely Malaysia has to suffer another 5 years until 2018. The UMNOisation of PAS will in one stroke of the pen undone all the good work of the last 12 months when Malays and non Malays stood side by side to defeat BN. Non UMNO BN parties have been left for dead because they are not able to mitigate the abuse and arrogance of UMNO. With the UMNOisation of PAS these parties are now given a lifeline. I would think they will be celebrating the direction PAS has taken. It may well be just as well for this to happen as going on the uneven and suspect quality of PKR and DAP reps eg Jelapang and Penanti, PR may not be ready to govern despite the experience of Anwar. Best left unsaid.
I would have thought the one thing PR should do is the behind the scenes work in the rural areas to explain its position, discuss current issues and massive voter registration exercise to recruit young voters. At the same time showing good governance in the present PR states. This kind of hack work is tough but PAS is normally known for doing it. I wonder if Hadi has lost his appetite for this kind of tough grind, having once tasted power as single term MB in Trengganu, and is in a hurry to enjoy the perks of government even if in a unity government with UMNO.
Hidup Melayu, Hidup UMNO don't know about PAS hidup or ...........................
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